The Lover Who Taught Me What I’ll Never Tolerate Again
Every girl has that one. You know, the man who thought silence was sexy, excuses were endearing, and effort was optional. Yeah, him. The lover who accidentally became my biggest teacher — by showing me everything I’ll never tolerate again.
First up: silence. Ladies, can we retire the idea that silence is “mysterious”? It’s not. Silence is disrespect. If he’s quiet, he’s not deep, he’s dismissive. The right man doesn’t leave you guessing — he leaves you glowing.
Then we have the lies. Not just the obvious kind, but the sneaky, dressed-up ones. Half-truths, “I didn’t mention it because…,” the stories with missing chapters. Spoiler alert: a half-truth is still a lie. And a man who lies is just auditioning for a role in someone else’s life, not yours.
Next: crumbs of effort. Oh, he texted back after two days? Congratulations, he knows how to use a phone. He planned one date in six months? Please, my DoorDash driver puts in more effort. Real love doesn’t ration — it overflows.
And don’t get me started on inconsistency. Intense passion one week, radio silence the next. That’s not love, that’s emotional whiplash. Chemistry without consistency? Chaos, dressed up in cologne.
Here’s the truth: excuses are just apologies in lazy clothing. “I’m busy.” “That’s just how I am.” No, darling — that’s just how you don’t get access to me. Because my time, my softness, my loyalty — they’re not clearance-rack items. They’re couture, and not everyone gets to wear them.
So thank you, to the lover who thought I would settle. You taught me well. Because now I know: if it costs me my peace, my dignity, or my standards, it’s simply too expensive.
And ladies, let’s make a pact — we don’t do silence, crumbs, lies, or inconsistency. We do devotion. We do clarity. We do love that feels like a full meal, not a snack.
✨ PS: Ready to release your own “never again” list? Scroll down for a witchy releasing spell with crystals and candle colors to help you seal it.
🔮 A Little Witchy Wisdom: Releasing What We Don’t Tolerate
Because sometimes it’s not enough to just say “never again” — sometimes you need to seal it with a little spellwork.
🌙 A Let-Go Spell
Write down on a slip of paper every single thing you won’t tolerate anymore (lies, silence, crumbs, inconsistency).
Light a black candle (for banishing) and a white candle (for purification).
Hold the paper over the flame (carefully, babes, we’re witches not arsonists) and say:
“What no longer serves me, I release. What no longer respects me, I refuse. What no longer loves me, I let go.”Let it burn safely, and when the ashes cool, scatter them in running water or the wind.
💎 Crystals to Carry
Black Tourmaline – protection from toxic lovers and draining energy.
Rose Quartz – keeps your heart soft while raising your standards.
Citrine – attracts devotion, abundance, and men who actually text back.
Amethyst – clarity and no-more-delusion energy.
🕯 Candle Magic for Standards
Red candle – for passion that’s real, consistent, and mutual.
Pink candle – for self-love and soft, romantic devotion.
Gold candle – for luxury love, provision, and relationships that make you feel adored, not depleted.
Because the truth is, magic isn’t just about herbs and candles — it’s about energy. When you declare, “I don’t tolerate this anymore,” you cast the most powerful spell of all: boundaries.