💋Lesson Three: Love Shouldn’t Be Confusing
There are nights when the lipstick on your wine glass feels louder than the conversation across the table. You swirl what’s left in your glass, staring at the blurred city lights through the window, and wonder: is it supposed to feel this hard?
For years, I thought love and confusion were a matching set. If I was left questioning, overthinking, refreshing my phone at 2 a.m., then maybe that meant I was “in deep.” I mistook butterflies for anxiety. I mistook mixed signals for mystery. And I mistook chaos for passion.
But here’s the lesson I’ve learned: real love isn’t a puzzle you’re supposed to solve. It doesn’t keep you guessing like a crime thriller where your own heart is the crime scene. Love doesn’t ask you to beg for clarity, or punish you for wanting more.
I once found myself in something that looked dazzling from the outside. The pictures, the dinners, the “you and me against the world” talk. But behind the curtain, it was a constant game of emotional hide-and-seek. I was always searching for crumbs of certainty, and every time I thought I found it, it slipped right through my fingers.
Love shouldn’t feel like detective work. It should feel like walking into a room and exhaling. Like clinking glasses over candlelight without wondering if tomorrow they’ll still be there. Love should feel steady, warm, and clear.
So when I see a lipstick-stained glass now, I don’t think of the nights I was left wondering. I think of the love I deserve—the kind where laughter rises easily, where city lights blur in the background because the only thing in focus is us.
Because the truth is simple: love doesn’t have to be confusing. And if it is? It’s probably not love. 💋
A Witchy Releasing Ritual đź”®
If you’ve ever found yourself tangled in confusing love, try this ritual to release the fog and step back into clarity:
Set the scene. Light a pink candle for self-love and a white candle for peace. Place a lipstick-stained glass (or any glass you’ve used before) in front of you.
Write it down. On a piece of paper, jot down all the feelings, questions, and confusions that love has left you with. Be raw and unfiltered.
Release. Fold the paper three times and hold it over the flame of the white candle. Let it burn safely in a fireproof bowl, watching the smoke rise as your confusion leaves you.
Seal with clarity. Take a sip of water or wine from your glass and say: “I release what confuses me. I welcome love that is clear and true.”
Crystals for Clarity đź’Ž
Carry these with you to anchor your heart back to what’s real:
Rose Quartz: for unconditional self-love and attracting gentle, steady love.
Amethyst: to calm the mind and keep intuition sharp.
Clear Quartz: for clarity when things start to feel foggy.
Black Tourmaline: to ground you and protect your energy from emotional chaos.
Slip them in your bag, your pocket, or keep one on your nightstand—little reminders that your love story should never feel like confusion.
Forgive, but don’t re-invite 🚫